"It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on."
- Nicholas Sparks (via ronr0narboleda)

thebentnib:

solar-citrus:

I’ve received a lot of letters from artists asking to check out their artwork and their blog, and I’ve noticed that a lot of them openly write unhealthy amounts of negative comments about their artwork, it was super depressing, honestly.  :(
Confidence plays a very very important role as an artist, it’s what helps us learn and grow without the constant feeling of doubt and jealousy!  You are a unique individual who must go down your own unique path, and as scary as it sounds, you can’t rely on others to hold your hand all the way through.  You are the only one who can get yourself to where you need to go, and beating up your artwork is not the way!  Trust yourself and your abilities to make a change, and you can do anything!!

Love your art, love yourself!

Important.
Or, my one year before-and-after

cherry-blossorn:

While I was going to the island to get more red hibiscus, Kapp’n told me this and I just fell in love with this quote.

cherry-blossorn:

While I was going to the island to get more red hibiscus, Kapp’n told me this and I just fell in love with this quote.

"Gradually, but deliberately… I have made myself into a machine. I have done it deliberately — in order to endure, in order not to feel. I have deliberately killed my senses — I have deliberately died […]"
- T.S. Eliot, from Selected Letters (via easymomentsandobsession)
dickrockers:

A JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure Masterpost/Guide?
JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure is a very intimidating series. It has over 8 parts and its still ongoing. The series is a big thing in Japan, the manga is referenced in many famous anime and manga featuring the various poses and phrases said and done in the series. It also has a following in the west and you’ve probably seen lots of it on tumblr here. I’ve compiled a mastepost/guide for getting into the JoJo series!Manga:

Part 1 
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
Part 6
Part 7
Part 8

Anime:

JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure 2012(Covers parts 1-2)
JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure: Stardust Crusaders (Ongoing as of 2014)

There are also three super old adaptions and they’re from the 90’s and 2000. You don’t need to watch them because the anime linked above is basically the same thing done in better animation and follows the manga. The Stardust Crusaders adaption doesn’t follow the manga, but it is fun to watch. I’ll link them just in case you want a laugh. There is also a Phantom Blood movie from 2007 but it isn’t anywhere on the internet. It’s basically a forgotten relic I guess.

Stardust Crusaders OVA

Games:
JoJo became known in the west after it’s games got localized. Here is the link to information on the games. The Playstation store has some of them that you can buy so you can search them and play them if you like!

List of JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure Video Games

JoJo also has a lot of spin offs and Novels and merch and basically a lot of thins so I’ll link the wiki pages to all of them bellow!

Spin offs
Novels
Artbooks
Merch

If I am missing anything please shoot me an ask and I’ll add it in right away!

dickrockers:

A JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure Masterpost/Guide?

JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure is a very intimidating series. It has over 8 parts and its still ongoing. The series is a big thing in Japan, the manga is referenced in many famous anime and manga featuring the various poses and phrases said and done in the series. It also has a following in the west and you’ve probably seen lots of it on tumblr here. I’ve compiled a mastepost/guide for getting into the JoJo series!

Manga:

Anime:

JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure 2012(Covers parts 1-2)

JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure: Stardust Crusaders (Ongoing as of 2014)

There are also three super old adaptions and they’re from the 90’s and 2000. You don’t need to watch them because the anime linked above is basically the same thing done in better animation and follows the manga. The Stardust Crusaders adaption doesn’t follow the manga, but it is fun to watch. I’ll link them just in case you want a laugh. There is also a Phantom Blood movie from 2007 but it isn’t anywhere on the internet. It’s basically a forgotten relic I guess.

Stardust Crusaders OVA

Games:

JoJo became known in the west after it’s games got localized. Here is the link to information on the games. The Playstation store has some of them that you can buy so you can search them and play them if you like!

List of JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure Video Games

JoJo also has a lot of spin offs and Novels and merch and basically a lot of thins so I’ll link the wiki pages to all of them bellow!

Spin offs

Novels

Artbooks

Merch

If I am missing anything please shoot me an ask and I’ll add it in right away!

in a dark cave

in a dark cave

"
  1. You are stronger than you realise.
  2. You are crueller than you realise.
  3. The smallest words will break your heart.
  4. You will change. You’re not the same person you were three years ago. You’re not even the same person you were three minutes ago and that’s okay. Especially if you don’t like the person you were three minutes ago.
  5. People come and go. Some are cigarette breaks, others are forest fires.
  6. You won’t like your name until you hear someone say it in their sleep.
  7. You’ll forget your email password but ten years from now you’ll still remember the number of steps up to his flat.
  8. You don’t have to open the curtains if you don’t want to.
  9. Never stop yourself texting someone. If you love them at 4 a.m., tell them. If you still love them at 9.30 a.m., tell them again.
  10. Make sure you have a safe place. Whether it’s the kitchen floor or the Travel section of a bookshop, just make sure you have a safe place.
  11. You will be scared of all kinds of things, of spiders and clowns and eating alone, but your biggest fear will be that people will see you the way you see yourself.
  12. Sometimes, looking at someone will be like looking into the sun. Sometimes someone will look at you like you are the sun. Wait for it.
  13. You will learn how to sleep alone, how to avoid the cold corners but still fill a bed.
  14. Always be friends with the broken people. They know how to survive.
  15. You can love someone and hate them, all at once. You can miss them so much you ache but still ignore your phone when they call.
  16. You are good at something, whether it’s making someone laugh or remembering their birthday. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that these things don’t matter.
  17. You will always be hungry for love. Always. Even when someone is asleep next to you you’ll envy the pillow touching their cheek and the sheet hiding their skin.
  18. Loneliness is nothing to do with how many people are around you but how many of them understand you.
  19. People say I love you all the time. Even when they say, ‘Why didn’t you call me back?’ or ‘He’s an asshole.’ Make sure you’re listening.
  20. You will be okay.
  21. You will be okay.
"
- 21 things my father never told me  (via forlornes)
king-klassic:

doctormemelordmd:

pan-pirate:

d-i-y-orgasms:

the-youngest-gandor-brother:

blackcr0wking:

fangirling-so-hard-rn:

nowyoukno:

Now You Know (Source)

Crows are scaryThey
use tools
Can be taught to speak (like parrots)
Have huge brains for birds
like seriously their brain-to-body size ratio is equal to that of a chimpanzee
They vocalize anger, sadness, or happiness in response to things
they are scary smart at solving puzzles
some ravens stay with their mates until one of them dies
they can remember faces
SIDENOTE HERE BECAUSE HOLY SHIT.  They did an experiment where these guys wore masks and some of them fucked with crows.  Pretty soon the crows recognized the masks = douchebag.  But the nice guys with masks they left alone.  THEN, OH WE’RE NOT DONE, NO SIR crows that WEREN’T EVEN IN THE EXPERIMENT AND NEVER SAW THE MASK BEFORE knew about mask-dudes and attacked them on sight.  THEY PASSED ON THE FUCKING INFORMATION TO THEIR CROW BUDDIES.
They remember places where crows were killed by farmers and change their migration patterns.
Guys I’m really scared of crows now.(q) 

i love crows so much

crows are amazing

My favorite legend is that crows are the souls of the dead

crows are the coolest shit

Yeah but have you seen this 


You guys are fucked

king-klassic:

doctormemelordmd:

pan-pirate:

d-i-y-orgasms:

the-youngest-gandor-brother:

blackcr0wking:

fangirling-so-hard-rn:

nowyoukno:

Now You Know (Source)

Crows are scary
They

  • use tools
  • Can be taught to speak (like parrots)
  • Have huge brains for birds
  • like seriously their brain-to-body size ratio is equal to that of a chimpanzee
  • They vocalize anger, sadness, or happiness in response to things
  • they are scary smart at solving puzzles
  • some ravens stay with their mates until one of them dies
  • they can remember faces
  • SIDENOTE HERE BECAUSE HOLY SHIT.  They did an experiment where these guys wore masks and some of them fucked with crows.  Pretty soon the crows recognized the masks = douchebag.  But the nice guys with masks they left alone.  THEN, OH WE’RE NOT DONE, NO SIR crows that WEREN’T EVEN IN THE EXPERIMENT AND NEVER SAW THE MASK BEFORE knew about mask-dudes and attacked them on sight.  THEY PASSED ON THE FUCKING INFORMATION TO THEIR CROW BUDDIES.
  • They remember places where crows were killed by farmers and change their migration patterns.

Guys I’m really scared of crows now.
(q

i love crows so much

crows are amazing

My favorite legend is that crows are the souls of the dead

crows are the coolest shit

Yeah but have you seen this 

image

You guys are fucked

Casual Love

lexxerduglas:

briangefrich:

ill-metbymoonlight:

carsieblanton:

Friends, put on your flak jackets. It’s time to drop some honesty on yet another uncomfortable topic: love.
We use the word “love” to mean a lot of things. Throughout this post I’ll be referring to the romantic kind of love, the kind that usually involves sexual attraction, AKA “falling in love”.

Love: The Shocking Truth  

The truth about love is: it happens. A lot. It happens at appropriate times (like, when you’re in a long-term relationship with someone great), and also inappropriate ones (like, when you meet somebody at a party and have a weirdly awesome conversation and then make out in a bathroom). Love is just not all that concerned with appropriateness. 
 
We have a mythology surrounding romantic love that says it’s a special, rare feeling, reserved for just a few people in your whole life. It says that love takes time to develop, and that the feelings you experience at the outset of a relationship are not love, but something else (“infatuation”, “a crush”, or my favorite, “twitterpation" (see Bambi)). It also says that love is generally constant and reliable, and that falling in love is A MAJOR LIFE EVENT, about which SOMETHING MUST BE DONE! 
 
In summation, the plot of every romantic comedy: if you fall in love with somebody, you better go out and get ‘em - even if they’re already married and they don’t really like you and you’re their stepsister and you’re leaving for a six-year residency in Mongolia in the morning - because you’ll probably love them forever and you might not ever love anyone else. 
We are so enamored with this idea that we tend to round some feelings up to love (when you first met the person you later married), and others down to not-love (your weekend fling with a Spanish dancer). The thing is, those experiences feel remarkably similar from the inside.

That Old Feeling

Love is a feeling. It’s hot and fluttery and tingly. I get it in my guts and chest and face. The feeling is accompanied by a series of enthusiastic thoughts, such as “This person is the greatest person ever”, “I wonder how I can make this person feel good”, and/or “I want to climb onto this person and put my face close to their face and smoosh my body onto their body.”
 
I have felt this way, to varying degrees, towards probably a hundred different people. Actually, that’s a lie; it is way more. When I was a teenager, I felt it towards approximately three people per day. Lately, the torrent has slowed to once every month or three (I am a bit of a love-fiend, I know. I don’t think such frequency is average.) And I’m married! 
 
And speaking of being married, yes, I do experience this feeling towards my husband. It feels different now than it felt when we first met: softer, warmer, with more comfort and less urgency. But the love I have for my husband is surrounded by a bunch of other feelings and thoughts that are much rarer than love, in my experience. These include: a deep mutual understanding of and appreciation for each other’s personalities, values, and quirks (e.g.: he finds my love-fiendishness endearing); years of shared experience; a lot of conversations about the kind of future we’re aiming for; and plenty of similar tastes and preferences (e.g. New Orleans, humor, dogs, dark chocolate, Ray Charles, The Daily Show, preferred frequency of house cleaning/travel/sex). 
 
But underneath all that is the same feeling: love.
 
Instead of trying to deny it, or ignore it, or call it something different in each different situation, I want to call it like I feel it: I’m in love. I’m in love with my husband, several of my friends, most of the musicians who move me (including some who are dead, such as Chet Baker, who would sympathize), and a handful of people I hardly know but have had good conversations/dances/make out sessions with. I fall in love all the time. 
 
And really, it’s no big deal. It’s actually kind of fun, once you get used to it.
 

I love you. NBD.

The kids today are having a casual sex revolution. “Hookup culture” is akin to “free love”, but with more condoms and fewer hallucinogens. And I’m for it! In case you haven’t heard, I like casual sex. It’s my observation that as casual sex becomes more acceptable behavior (for men and women), it lessens the shame and anxiety associated with the sex that people are having anyway (and have been having since the dawn of time, and are going to keep having). I’m thrilled that young people are beginning to feel they have the option of exploring sex, safely and consensually, outside of the boundaries of long-term commitment. 
 
But why not have the option of exploring love, too, with or without a side of commitment? If we can agree that our bodies are not inherently dangerous, can’t we do the same for our hearts?
 
I suggest we take a page from the casual sex book here. Let’s lift some of the weighty grandiosity off the shoulders of love, and allow it to be what it is: a sweet, ephemeral, exciting feeling to experience and share.
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Imagine if you could say to a casual partner, “I love you. It’s no big deal. It doesn’t mean you’re The One, or even one of the ones. It doesn’t mean you have to love me back. It doesn’t mean we have to date, or marry, or even cuddle. It doesn’t mean we have to part ways dramatically in a flurry of tears and broken dishes. It doesn’t mean I’ll love you until I die, or that I’ll still love you next year, or tomorrow.”
 
Then later, perhaps over brunch, you could tackle the question of whether there’s anything to do about it. All of the aforementioned - dating, marriage, cuddling, etc - are options, and there are an infinite number of other options (Skee ball, sailing around the world, double suicide). These are all things you can now choose or not choose, as two conscious adult human beings. The important distinction is that none of them is implied just by saying the word “love”.
 

The Point 

There are advantages to separating the wacky, butterflies-in-the-gut, unpredictable feeling of “love” from the ideally rational, cool-headed decisions and agreements of “commitment”. For one: love is just not a good enough reason to commit to somebody (trust me, I’ve tried). You need a few other ingredients: mutuality, compatibility, and availability, for starters.
 
The big advantage for the lover is that falling in love will feel less scary, life-threatening, and crazy-making. As long as love is theoretically reserved for people whom you want to date and possibly marry, falling in love will be confusing and dramatic. If we interpret this particular set of feelings and thoughts as an epic, life-changing event, we’ll have no choice but to get really, really attached to our beloved. We’ll throw a lot of expectations at them (“Love me back! Love me only! Love me forever!”), and feel hurt and resentful if the feeling is not mutual. We’ll imprint upon them like baby ducks, and resolve to stick with them through thick and thin, through hell or high water, through abuse and neglect and lies and bickering and frustration and mutually-assured destruction, whether or not it brings us (or anyone else) any kind of joy. 
 
The big advantage for the beloved is that being loved will feel less like an attack, and more like a gift. The little-discussed fact is that it’s super uncomfortable to be loved when the feeling is not mutual (see my song Please). So uncomfortable, in fact, that many of us would rather act like callous, cold-hearted assholes than be in the same room as the person who loves us. We panic, we get distant, we deny any interest or care for the other person, we stop returning their texts. But that’s not an aversion to love, or to the lover; it’s the attachment and expectation being hurled in our direction with such intensity. If love was casual, we could take it as a high compliment, say “thanks!”, and feel some warm fuzzies. We might also begin to feel some compassion for our lover (who, after all, has a stomach full of butterflies and can’t eat or sleep very well), which might allow us to make better and kinder decisions about how to respond.
 
If love was casual, perhaps it wouldn’t collide into our sense of identity or our plans for the future at such high velocity. It wouldn’t feel so personal. If it’s not mutual, so what? If it doesn’t turn into a relationship, so what? I have feelings and desires all the time that go unsatisfied. Sometimes (okay, a lot of times), late at night, I want Chef’s Perfect Chocolate ice cream, but Creole Creamery closes at 10pm. Do I panic? Do I call Creole Creamery and leave a series of desperate messages? Do I curl into a ball and lament that without Chef’s Perfect Chocolate, I am a broken person who is not worthy of ice cream? No. I deal. I feel my feelings, whine a little if I need to, and go without. Like a grown-ass woman.
 
And here’s my favorite part: if love is casual - not something rare and dramatic and potentially painful, but something common and easy and mutually enjoyable - we all get to feel more love, and share more love. 
 
Sounds lovely, right?
 
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I identify with this more strongly than I can fully describe. It’s full of truth, excellent points, and some lovely reminders for me personally.

"And if I may conjecture a further objection,

love is nothing to do with destined perfection.

The connection is strengthened,

the affection simply grows over time.”

- Tim Minchin, “If I Didn’t Have You”

Note that Minchin doesn’t suggest that the initial affection is not love. It’s just something that has the ability to mutate and modulate and evolve through the shared experiences of life.

I feel a great deal of love. It is an oft-present emotion in my days, and the memories (those made and those yet to happen) of the people I love fill my nights. 

If you make me laugh and smile on a regular basis, I probably love you. I feel staggering love for my family and many of my close friends. If you’ve ever been there when I really needed somebody, I love you. If your life and all of the successes and failures have fueled my own pursuits, I love you. If you can perform the Jesus role from the second meeting of Jesus and Pilate from Jesus Christ Superstar (“You hypocrites! You hate us more than him!”), I probably have some love for you too.

This love is an amazing thing in its continually positive impact on my well-being, and how it is entirely intangible and undemanding to the people I love. It requires nothing of them. They are free to ignore it or acknowledge it or cherish it or reciprocate it or something else entirely. Only with my wife, where over years a gradually increasing level of commitment has been discussed and agreed upon, is there any expectation attached to my love. 

It’s a pretty great way to live, if you ask me. I highly recommend it.

Aaah, this post fills me with so much joy and affirmation! One of my healthiest, fondest relationships was one that really epitomized this attitude on love, and I’m not really sure when I stopped trying to pursue that and started trying to conform to the sort of societal standard of LOVE = MONOGAMOUS COMMITMENT. Some conflation of getting older being synonymous with settling down and casual attitudes about love and intimacy being somehow immature or whatever I guess.

I’m a very happy single person who wants to maintain the lifestyle of a single person but wants to express and act on my affection for friends and potentially-more-than-friends and recent acquaintances who happen to sweep me off my feet with their exceptional greatness. I have so much love for so many people. I love to be in love, but I am terrified to act on it most of the time which is lame and dumb.

I’m gonna try to be less lame and dumb.

Yeah.

"It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."
- L.R. Knost   (via elige)